when the sex desire arises.., - OSHO

😍😍😘. when the sex desire arises,
OSHO

ONE small technique will be of tremendous help. Whenever you feel sex desire arising,
there are three possibilities: one, indulge in it -- ordinary, everybody is doing that;
second: repress it, force it down so it goes beyond your consciousness into the darkness
of the unconscious, throw it into the basement of your life. That's what your so-called
extraordinary people are doing -- MAHATMAS, saints, monks. But both are against
nature. Both are against the inner science of transformation.

The third -- a very rare minority ever tries it -- is when the sex desire arises, close your
eyes. It is a very valuable moment: desire arising is energy arising. It is like the sun rising
in the morning. Close your eyes; this is the moment to be meditative. Move downwards
to the sex center where you are feeling the thrill the vibration, the kick. Move there and
just be a silent onlooker. Witness it, don't condemn it. The moment you condemn you
have gone far away from it. And don't enjoy it, because the moment you enjoy you are
unconscious. Just be alert, watchful, like a lamp burning in a dark night. You just take
your consciousness there, unflickering, unwavering. You see what is happening at the sex
center. What is this energy?

Don't call it names because all words have become contaminated. Even if you say it is
sex, immediately you have started condemning it. The very word has become
condemnatory. Or, if you belong to the new generation, then the very word has become
something sacred. But the word is always loaded with emotion. Any word which is
loaded with emotion becomes a barrier on the path of awareness.

You just don't call it anything. Just watch the fact that an energy is arising near the sex center.
 There is a thrill
-- watch it.
 And watching it, you will feel a totally new quality of energy. Watching it,
you will see it is rising upwards. It is finding a path inside you. And the moment it starts
rising upwards you will feel a coolness falling on you, a silence surrounding you, a grace,
a beatitude, a benediction, a blessing all around you. It is no longer like a thorn, painful.
It no longer hurts; it is very soothing, like a balm. And the more you remain aware, the
higher it will go. If it can come up to the heart, which is not very difficult -- difficult, but
not very difficult.... If you remain alert you will see it has come to the heart. When it
comes to the heart you will know for the first time what love is.

UP to now you have been carrying a counterfeit in the name of love. When the energy
comes to the heart chakra, then it is transformed into love. Once it is transformed into
love, once you have felt it, once it has penetrated you, your whole being will feel
purified. You will feel virgin, you will feel so pure, so holy, that you cannot think that
heaven is anywhere else. You will know it is within you, within your heart.

And heaven will become a truth; it will not be theology then, it will become almost a geography.
 You will know exactly where it is, and God will no longer be a hypothesis. In that purity, in
that silence, in that fulfillment of love you will see, God is -- not as a theory, but as a selfevident
truth; not as an argument, not as a proof, not as a conclusion, not as a syllogism,
but simply it is there. There is no way to deny it. It is there so much that you can deny
yourself, but you cannot deny God. You yourself look so faint before the reality of God
that you can say, "I may not be, but He is."

That will be the first glimpse. Energy can rise still higher. When it comes to the center of
the throat, it becomes prayer. People have been doing prayer, but they don't know what
prayer is -- because prayer is the most subtle and refined form of love. If you have not
moved through the heart center you cannot go to prayer; there is no way. One has to go
via the heart. Because of the throat center, because it exists at the throat center and
happens at the throat center, people have started doing rituals.

People have made prayers:
they assert, they say something. But just by using the throat center and saying something
to God you are not praying. Prayer is concerned with the throat center, but not as
verbalization. It is an experience at that center, and the experience is exactly like when a
child sucks at his mother's breast for the first time. It is not that you say something, but
you receive something.

Prayer is not saying something to God, but receiving something from God. God becomes
the mother, the mother's breast. Prayer is a nourishment. Yes, it exists and happens at the
throat center because the throat center is the center to receive. The throat center is the
first center which starts functioning because the child has to suck air; that happens
through the throat center. And then he has to suck milk; that happens through the throat
center. Prayer is just like sucking air, vitality, or sucking milk at the breast of your
mother.


Hence, Jesus says, "Unless you become like small babes, you will not enter into my
kingdom of God." He is talking about the throat center. But Christians have completely
lost track of it. He is saying in a symbolic way to again become a babe, again start
sucking from the throat center the energy that life is. Now, of course, the breast is
invisible and the milk is invisible.


Have you watched a man in prayer? -- how diffused with grace he looks, how peaceful,
how at home, how relaxed. Watch a small babe sucking milk, fallen asleep with the
nipple of the breast still in his mouth, resting on his mother's breast, fallen asleep. Watch
the face of the child; that is the face of the saint also when he arrives at the throat center
and prayer arises.

PRAYER is not something that you do with God; prayer is something that you allow God
to do with you. Prayer is receptive. It is not an action on your part, it is a passive
welcome.. Prayer is not saying something to God. On the contrary, it is listening to God.
It is being ready to receive His gift. It is very difficult to receive His gift because you
have your own ideas, you have your own plans. You go on telling Him, showing Him the
right path: "Do this, then I will be happy."


We have the adage that man proposes and God disposes. This is simply stupid, sheer
stupidity. Just the other way round is the case: God proposes and man goes on disposing -
- because you have your own plans. You never listen to Him, you think you are wiser
than Him. You go on advising Him: "Do this, don't do that" -- that's what you do in your
prayer.


A real prayer has nothing to suggest to God except a deep gratitude, thankfulness. It
simply accepts whatsoever God is pouring. Prayer is receiving the gift.
But it happens at the throat center. It is the highest form of love. And when you go still
higher, then at the seventh center, SAHASRAR, happens SAMADHI, the ultimate
ecstasy, where the seeker is lost in the sought, where you are no more yourself, where
God and you lose boundaries and become one.


Overlapping starts at the throat center; boundaries become dim, not very clear-cut. But
still, you exist separately. You have a separate center and God has a separate center. In
prayer you two are meeting, overlapping. In some way peripheries are merging into each
other, but still centers are different. The higher you go, the more centers come closer and
closer. At the SAHASRAR, the seventh chakra, your centers become one. Then there is
only one center. That's what is meant when Jesus says, "Not I, but my Father lives in
me." Now the seeker and the sought are not two. The ultimate meeting has happened, the
ultimate love has flowered, has come to fruition and fulfillment.

If you become aware and a witness when the sex center is throbbing with energy,
vibrating, streaming -- without choosing indulgence or repression -- if you can remain
just in the middle, a watcher, an observer, this tremendous transformation happens on its
own.


So next time you feel full of passion, don't move into these two easily available
alternatives: indulgence or repression. Just remain in the middle, and you are at a point
where the door can open. It always opens in the middle.
Buddha used to call his path 'the middle path', MAJJHIM NIKAYA, because he said,
"Everywhere, excess is prohibited. Always choose the middle." The exact middle is the
point beyond. If you can find the exact middle ground between two opposites, two rivals,
you have gone beyond them, you have reached a transcendence. The transcendence opens
just in the middle; the middle is the beyond.


When you are watching, standing like a witness at the sex center, energy moves upwards.
Kundabuffer starts melting, and kundalini starts functioning. Kundalini is the right path,
kundabuffer the wrong path. And kundabuffer is functioning because we have lived so
unconsciously for many lives that kundalini cannot function. Kundalini needs the fuel of
consciousness. If that gas is missing, kundalini cannot function. Kundabuffer functions
with unconsciousness.

So it depends on you: if you go on supplying unconsciousness, kundabuffer will go on
functioning; if you supply consciousness, suddenly your life turns. You start moving
towards the interior of your being; a deep interiority.

A man who was extremely successful with muleteams was asked how he managed the
stubborn creatures.

"Well," explained the man, "when they won't move, I pick up a handful of soil and put it
in their mouths. Of course, they spit it out, but as a rule they start on."

"Why do you think it has that effect?" asked the person.

"I'm not sure, but I think it changes the current of their thoughts."

If you start witnessing, nobody knows exactly HOW your energy starts moving, but
somehow it happens. Maybe it changes your current of thought. It is a great shock.

You try -- you are angry, you are getting into anger; suddenly become alert. Shake and
jerk your body and become alert, and see what happens. Suddenly you will see that
something has slipped out of your hands; you are no longer angry. Somehow anger looks
foolish now. Or, slap your face when you are getting angry rather than slapping
somebody else's face -- that is not going to help. Slap your own face when you are getting
angry and see what happens. Suddenly, the mechanism that was going to function in a
routine way cannot function; you have shocked it.

A consciousness arises if you slap your own face, a consciousness which breaks the
unconscious pattern. So wherever you want to change, remember consciousness is the
key. Otherwise, we are almost living in a sort of insanity. A few mad people are in the
madhouses, the remainder are outside. But it is very difficult to find a sane man. The
differences are only of degrees. Have you watched the fact, have you ever become afraid
of it? -- that the person who has become mad was also just like you a few days before?

Nobody had ever thought that he would become mad; he is mad. Can't the same happen
to you?
IT is told about William James, the greatest American psychologist, that when he went to
visit a madhouse for the first time, he went back home very sad. He had fever. The wife
was worried. She said, "What has happened? You went, and you were perfectly okay."
He said, "Don't talk to me. I'm in no mood to talk." He slipped under the blankets and
remained ill for two or three days. Everybody was worried. The doctor said, "Nothing is
wrong." Then he said what had happened.

Seeing many mad people in the madhouse, suddenly a thought occurred to him: "The
same can happen to me." That gave him a trembling; he was never the same man again.
But that made him very alert.
Inside your mind, continuous madness exists -- and you know it. How can you manage
not to know it? But it goes on like an undercurrent. On the surface you manage well.

I have heard....

A clergyman had occasion to preach to the inmates of an insane hospital. During his
sermon he noticed that one of the patients paid the closest attention, his eyes riveted upon
the preacher's face, his body bent eagerly forward. This interest was most flattering. After
the service, the speaker noticed that the man spoke to the superintendent. So as soon as
possible, the preacher inquired, "Didn't that man speak to you about my sermon?"
"Yes."

"Would you mind telling me what he said?"

The superintendent tried to sidestep, but the preacher insisted. "Well," he said at last,

"what the man said was,'Just think...he is out and I am in.'"


You may be out and somebody may be in, but the difference is only of degree. Unless
you become conscious, you are always on the verge of madness, always boiling, always
ready. Any small thing can prove the last straw on the camel. Any small thing, any small
incident, and you may cross the boundary.


TO live unconsciously is not to really live. To become conscious, to move consciously, to
be conscious of all that happens in your mind, to be separate from your mind -- because
consciousness becomes separate; whenever you watch something you become separate
from that thing -- this is the secret. If you watch your thoughts you become separate from
your thoughts; you are no more identified.

And when you are not identified, you are not
cooperating, and you don't go on giving energy to your thoughts -- by and by, they
disappear. When the host is not interested, the guests disappear. They don't come so
often; or even if they come they don't stay so long. Gaps arise -- one thought comes, then
minutes pass and another thought does not come. In that gap you face reality. Then there
is no screen between you and reality. Unscreened reality is what God is.
 🌺🌸OSHO🌸🌺
The Beloved, Vol 2 #7
Chapter title: They Kill Lust With Lust
7 July 1976 am in Buddha Hall